@Johann9 said in #369:
> Good evening and sorry for the late reply. First I must say, thank you for actually reading my post and (as far as I can tell) taking the points serious, or at least not deliberatly misunderstanding me. This is a good start and above average for such politically and emotionally charged discussions on the internet.
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> This is all a very good sign :)
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> This not. You shouldn't give those idiots so much power over your head. Injustice happens to everyone of us all of the time, resilience is an important skill in life. Just remember often, the thing that such idiots hate the most is simply being ignored.
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Unless you are in my shoes, I don't think you are in a position to judge how I should, or shouldn't feel, and how much time and mental energy I should devote to it. You have no idea how much resilience I have, or don't have. Don't be so patronising.
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> Well, as said in the other post, I assumed the articles on the front side were manually curated. If it's the algortihm it's not directly their fault however, if (as theorized in the other post too) the algortihm favors articles that create many replys, it favors drama, which is a questionable design choice, in my oppinion.
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Well what do you want? Manually curated or trending articles? You don't seem to want either. If you don't want the drama, just don't engage with it.
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> As said in my other post to me it feels a lot like moral outrage and also a "please join me in my outrage" . The whole article contains a lot of value judgments, implications, inferences and connotation, it's far a way from a factual report.
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I don't agree with this ^^^
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Also you don't even try to seek out women who are generally happy with the chess world and include their oppinion, it's one sided from the beginning and written with a very clear mission and intention.
It's actually hard to find women that have never had this problem...they are free to comment here and tell me this is not their experience.
> Well everything comes with a cost. You might differ but I think partly your own emotional life and how you react to things and feel about them is your own responsiblity. I think reporting such idiots should be enough.
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I will agree to differ here, this feels like you are saying that if anyone bullies or harasses you and you get upset, it's your own fault and that reporting the idiots is enough. Of course everything comes with a cost...
> And also I think this moral outrage and being the "bright public crusader for the right thing" and the "voice of the silent oppressed" also gives you something, it's a nice self-image. You also get a lot of possitive feedback too. It's the same on twitter, people that start moral outrage threads there also get something from it, otherwise they wouldn't do it. I don't judge you for this, we all have our little guilty little pleasures, but please be honest about it. You wouldn't do this if this wouldn't give you something
You clearly don't know me very well. When I wrote this article, it was with the hope of maybe informing a few more people about a problem that exists, as I discovered a few friends had no idea about it so I extrapolated that there might be a general lack of awareness. The response into my inbox has confirmed to me that this was the case, a lot of people (mainly guys, because of course most girls know this is a problem) responded to the article and said they had not been aware of the issues I raised, and in future they would look out for and try to discourage such antisocial behaviours, and some of them would even take this initiative of being more aware of the issues female players face and try to implement measures in their own chess clubs to improve things and be more welcoming to women and girls. Of course it is satisfying to hear this sort of feedback, but it is not why I wrote it, for my own satisfaction.
I would hardly call this a "little guilty pleasure" I reserve that phrase for a bar of chocolate or something!
Honestly, as you can see I am not in the habit of "being the "bright public crusader for the right thing" and the "voice of the silent oppressed" this is only my second blog and I hardly ever go on Twitter/X . I hid my first blog after I received personal threats due to this blog.